There once was a lady who started a blog…

There once was a lady who started a blog.

Her name is Dewena.

And I delighted in reading her blog posts and her posts were often just outstanding. Many of her posts took a great deal of time and research to write…and as time went on, between her and her husband, and his photography,  it became one of those blogs to look forward to and savor, several posts at a time, on a weekend, like perusing the pages of a favorite magazine.

Along the way, I recall Dewena struggling with the issue of the time that blogging took up in her life. It wasn’t the blog post that she struggled with, to my recollection, as much as her impeccable blog manners. For instance, if a blogger visited her, then she felt that she should visit them back.

I think that Dewena had it right. Canned email responses and replies in threaded comments, but no visits back, are not what most bloggers want. When they comment, they hope to get a return visit at some point at least. Blogging is easy if you just throw your own life up there and don’t bother to get involved with anyone else’s. In her goodbye post, Dewena said “I have met the nicest people in the world in blogging. You deserve fellow bloggers who will visit and comment. Anything less is discouraging.”

I think that Dewena had more concerns about being a good neighbor / blogger / visitor than most people, and I am sorry that she’ll stop blogging due to the time that it took up for her.  Fortunately she’s leaving her blog up for us to enjoy her older posts HERE 

I hope that she’ll change her mind and post here and there, even if it is just once per quarter 2014 :)

Having said that, much of what Dewena said could affect anyone who is thinking about cutting back in 2014 in regards to blogging.  I think that at this time of year everyone considers change going forward, and blogging is just one of many…Best Wishes to Dewena and all :)

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14 Responses to There once was a lady who started a blog…

  1. This is such a sweet post for a fine lady. I visited her and wished her my best…and mentioned you! Sweet hugs, Diane

  2. Rhonda says:

    I had never seen her blog before, it was very nice and she makes some good points.
    I seem to comment and get comments back for the same circle of bloggers even though my blog has a lot more hits than comments. That is OK. I am happy to have the friendships of some very special bloggers and I hope to continue with blogging, both to reach out to others. And also, this kind of like a diary for me, but with no lock or privacy :)

  3. I’m sad to know she is leaving too Debra. She is a class act. This was a very thoughtful tribute to Dewena and I’m sure is very much appreciated.

  4. sue says:

    That’s a sweet tribute.

    Happy New Year!

  5. Margie says:

    Thank you for sharing that. I had never visited her blog but blogging for me has been healing in the bad years…and a joy in the good ones. My blogging friends helped me through the death of my husband in 2010. They can be very supportive.

    I hope she changes her mind.

  6. My goodness, Debra, I had to come see why I’ve had 27 page views from Frugal Little Bungalow! And now I know, they were all because of this very nice post by you that made me cry. You are so thoughtful, my friend. Thank you so much, and thank you to your readers, several who left such nice comments on the last post of someone they didn’t even know.

    That is the world of blogging, though. How that happens, friendships developing through these glimpses into our lives, I don’t know, but it does happen.

    Thank you again, Debra. My blogroll will remain intact so that I can visit old friends in the future. Blessing to you and your family in 2014. I’m sure that many of these blessings will involve those adorable grandchildren of yours.


  7. I agree with Dewena about visiting each other’s blogs but there are so many that I follow that there are days when it’s impossible to leave a response and on those days I try to at least click their “like” buttons if they have them. Time has become a critical part of my life as well but I will continue to write.

  8. Jane says:

    Deb, this is a very touching post. I didn’t know of Dewana but I’m going to hop over to her blog, she sounds like a beautiful lady. I’m really sad when I see a blogger leave and it’s usually due to time constraints. Even, I, who always seemed to have all the time in the world, have been slow to get around to all of you that I follow. I try to mention it in my posts if I’m busy so you know why I haven’t been by. And like Dewena, it’s hard to visit everyone that comes by, but it really is a big courtesy.

    I know I’ll love her blog and hope that she returns to our little corner of the world.

    Wishing you a Happy New Year, my friend. It’s been great getting to know you this year!


  9. Sammy says:

    Seriously, I’m suppose to have blog manners? I didn’t know that. I don’t even have my comments turned on. I look at what blogs I enjoy, but don’t expect anything back. I did just go to Dewena’s because of you and I can see why you loved hers. Obviously, I like yours and that is why I’m here. : – )))

    • debralynnpugh says:

      You are right you don’t have comments on…I know I’ve been over to your blog before but not for awhile and what a Christmas you had..the kids certainly had a blast and I came away incredibly hungry and craving everything I saw …the food looks incredible and I need to copy that cheese tray tree next year!

  10. Grandma Kc says:

    You are a wonderful friend and this was very special. Also very sad. I am not even going to share my feelings on blog manners. Profanity is not a good thing and I know words would come out that shouldn’t.

  11. Amy says:

    This was such a thoughtful tribute to Dewena. Her blog was one of my favorites…I was so sad to hear she was closing up shop!

  12. Joyce says:

    I have just visited Dewena and left her a comment. Her thoughts are beautiful, photos charming.
    I hope she will return occasionally, refreshed, to share more of her talent.
    But when others are visited without ever a return sign of acknowledgement, it is like waving to a neighbor on the way to the mailbox every day. If friendly gestures are ignored, one cannot expect them to continue for very long.
    Thank you, Debra, for a lovely tribute to this talented and kind lady!

    • debralynnpugh says:

      Joyce I was amazed at how many people, including yourself, went over there due to my post, and read and commented there. I am in such good company here I am amazed and grateful! :)

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