My reply to irate follower Melody

I will leave her last name out to protect her privacy  :

From ” wife and mother Melody M” to my personal email :

“I have been a follower and subscriber of yours for YEARS but that ends today. Once you get into politics and blaming GUNS for the problems, than you lost me and I am forwarding your post to as many of my friends that I can so they can decide for themselves to stop following you or not. 911, no guns were used. OKC bombing, no guns were used. EVIL FINDS A WAY. It is time to stop blaming guns for the actions of EVIL people.”

( this was in response to my “Blood Money post which basically just listed the monies given to political candidates from the NRA. )

She emailed privately but I am responding on the blog.

What do you think that this is going to do to me?  You have never commented so I won’t miss that. I don’t make money from the blog….the  ads on the sidebar barely cover the yearly costs of the blog.

So Melody…the fact that the only time that you cared to contact me over the years that you followed and enjoyed the work that I put in to this blog was about guns is sad.

By the way, my sons and friends have guns, many guns. My middle son is a Vet. None of them support taking everyone’s guns away, nor do I. Never said that in my post.  There’s a middle ground and when the NRA pours a lot of money into elections on the behalf of gun manufacturers that’s beyond the middle ground. No one needs an assault rifle or a bump stock to create a machine gun.

I have probably posted something political over the years less than five times and I don’t think that I need to be called out about it.  If you disagree, fine, but saying that you are not going to follow any more as if  you are canceling a paid subscription to a magazine is something else.

God Bless America and where it goes in regards to responsible gun laws and checks after this latest carnage.  And God Bless you, Melody as you unsubscribe. I hope that you develop some compassion over the years for more than guns.


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37 Responses to My reply to irate follower Melody

  1. Tammi Woods says:

    I too have followed you for awhile and I find it very immature of you to post this whole episode. She brought it to you privately and you try to shame her and anyone else that feels that way by doing this. Boo-hoo that she did not comment EVER, etc. I go to blogs and read people’s postings but do not reply but I do try to help them out and click on their ads. How do you know she did not also? I hope this silly posting and fit throwing that you just did caused you to lose a few more people. My gosh. Is there not enough drama out there that you didn’t need to show more and add to it. Don’t worry about posting a big reply to me too. You shown your colors and hope others follow suit and leave you. Sooooo many other blogs out there to follow.

  2. George Pillion, can be found on Facebook says:

    I do appreciate the time you put into a blog. It is hard work and I have never commented before but did not realize that was something I needed to do. I do think you handled this wrong. If she brought it to you in an email, perhaps she was trying to prevent all this drama? It might have been a kindness to you in a way. I will remain following you but wanted to give you a gentle hug and say take a deep breath and let things go. So she is gone, fine. But as you stated yourself, others felt the same way (not the first one, your words), being out there, having a blog, puts yourself out there and how you handle these things represents you and your blog. Anyway, just my 2 cents.

    • Diva Odete Kreszl says:

      I don’t often comment either and the response that I have any less value as a follower is upsetting. Your response was kind and wise.

  3. Karen says:

    your blog – you write what you want! if others don’t like it I say they can skip that day and then go back. we get complaints don’t we but most times those placing the complaints don’t take the time to learn how to do a blog themselves –
    the rest of us enjoy your blog just fine and realize we all need to let off steam now and then on Our blogs after all we write them right!

  4. Amen! I don’t know what happened to an individual’s right to express their own opinion-called freedom of speech by the way-but I’d like to see it make a comeback Hatred and vitriol help no one and solve nothing. Good on You!

  5. Deb says:

    Your blog – you write whatever you feel like! Last time I checked we have the right to our own opinions in this country and the right to express them. Don’t stop being you or writing what you wish. We love you just the way you are =)

  6. Jeanne says:

    Thank you for your brave words!

  7. Linda Bastedo says:

    Well said! You have every right to express your opinion. I have a feeling many bloggers share your frustration. And I enjoy reading your blog very much.

  8. Nmp says:

    Melody seems to have directed her anger at the wrong person. You did not deserve her response.
    The same people who continually barrage us with their SECOND amendment rights are very quick to disparage our FIRST amendment rights-Freedom of Speech. I enjoy your blog very much and appreciate the time and effort you put into your daily posts. Please let go of your anger. To paraphrase Melody’s response,”SHE IS THE ONE WHO IS LOST.”

  9. Well said! We should all speak against the horrific, pointless violence that touches all our lives.

  10. SallyC says:

    Of course there will always be evil and people will always find a way to hurt others but making the kind of weapons which can cause such carnage freely available is just wrong. Anyone who intends to use a gun responsibly for leisure purposes would be happy to jump through a few hoops before being allowed to own it. No one, other than the military needs an assault rifle.

  11. Ann says:

    So much vocalization of “rights” but I rarely hear about responsibilities.

  12. Eileen Wise says:

    Hello Deb, I agree 100% with you. There are some guns that should be banned. They can not be used for hunting, like the AR 15 assault weapons. All of these students would not have been killed if the one EVIL boy did not own the gun. I do not own a gun but, I believe people have a right to some guns. Also, the NRA seems to run our country, the politicians have no backbone, they just want the donations. You are entitled to put what ever you want on your blog, I will always follow you.

  13. Susan Green says:

    I enjoy reading about your family and quilts and you certainly have a right to say whatever you want on your own blog! Thank you for sharing.

  14. Margie Miller says:

    My own feeling is this: If these “gun” folks enjoy their assault rifles more then the children they kill, they have their priorities all wrong.

    Here is a letter I sent to my local newspapers Sunday.

    My own feeling is this: If these “gun” folks enjoy their assault rifles more then the children they kill, they have their priorities all wrong.

    Dear Editor,

    On the need for a reasonable gun law.

    I had a good discussion last night with my ex nephew, David, and one of his sons, Russell, on the term “Monopoly on the use of lethal force”. It started with a post from me on the second amendment.

    “A well regulated militia, being necessary to the security of a free state, the right of the people to bear arms, shall not be infringed.”

    This was written before we had a standing army or police force, and used a militia to keep order in the nation.

    Monopoly on the use of lethal force is one of the cornerstones that define a sovereign state. When military and police forces disperse that right, sovereignty and freedoms are curtailed or rendered ineffective. This is generally called “militarism’.

    This means if you are not in the army or police, you have no “right” to bear arms.

    An America where anyone can be, and often is, carrying a gun, is an America where more police-civilian encounters escalate, with deadly consequences.

    We need a logical and reasonable solution to this dilemma before more schools and churches are riddled with bullets and more innocent people and children are killed.

    In the case of the recent Florida school killings, the FRI was aware of his activities and the police had been to his home numerous times. It took a deadly action by him, and the deaths of another 17 students for someone to finally wake up.

    Congress needs to get busy and get some kind of gun control legislation enacted.

    It should be obvious by now that it is not only those with mental problems that are abusing their supposed right to bear arms, it is also allowing the arming of those who wish to make a statement about their supposed life situation.

    How many people have to die before something is finally done?

    It has become a violent culture. And it is getting worse all the time. These folk’s answer to their life’s problems seems to be just kill a lot of people or school children.

    Australia and Israel seem to have come to a solution to this type of mass violence. They have security and gun control.

    Our Congress needs to stop accepting funding from the NRA and use some common sense about a solution.

    Personally, when I vote in the midterms, I will be considering all this.


  15. jan says:

    Too often we don’t speak out about what we really think about gun control which might lead people to believe that we agree on the 2nd amendment.

    It is long past time for those of us who COMPLETELY DISAGREE that any fool, crazy or not, should be allowed to have automatic rifles.
    I am so sick of seeing how their rights to have such a gun supercedes my right to have my family and friends safe!

    Look at the countries who have strick gun control! No Killings! It is high time we took notice and followed suit.

    Your blog! Your right to say anything you want!

  16. Megan says:

    Thank you. I ‘see’ the emotion around all these ‘gun’ discussions but if we can start posting the ‘truth’ then there is only anger. What I appreciated the most was not responding to her anger but pointing out that you never ever said you were AGAINST guns or wanted to BAN all guns or that there weren’t EVIL people in the world. She assumed a whole lot from your post, berated you, threatened you and tried to demean you. You handled it well.

  17. Joyce says:

    Where to begin? What I love about this form of communication – blogging – is that ordinary people are given a sizable audience for their views. We are no longer limited to professional tv, book, and newspaper voices. Most of us read to become educated: What opinions exist other than my own? How are they backed up? Does any common ground exist? How best might I rebut the argument in a measured, polite manner that opens the line of communication between us? That is my preferred way to respond to blog commentary, which is, by definition, the personal musings of the posting author.
    Debra, I am sorry “wife and mother Melody” attacked you in the personal way she did. I join you in respecting her right to go away. But for the sake of her children, I hope she will consider modeling other forms of reaction to differences of opinion. Children watch and imitate!
    I will continue to enjoy the beauty of life you showcase here – happy youngsters, thriving gardens, lovely sunsets, joyful pets….as well as your (infrequent) responses to tumultuous current events.
    Thank you for your honest thoughts, a welcoming forum, and the charming slice of life you provide so many of us here!
    Wife, mother, and grandmother, Joyce

    • debralynnpugh says:

      JOYCE!! lol HOW MANY TIMES DO I HAVE TO TELL YOU to stop making your comments better than my posts HA HA :) Seriously thank you ALL for your feedback. I hope that these kids can make a difference. They seem very determined, highly intelligent and extremely organized. And they are all going to be old enough to vote very soon.

  18. Chris K in Wisconsin says:

    Amen, my friend. It is time. This discussion has to be had and “not the right time” isn’t the answer. Nor is “thoughts and prayers”. Though, of course we all are thinking and praying for the victims and their families, it is NOT the answer to this problem. It is simply a way of telling everyone to go sit down quietly and let the NRA take over. I am so happy to see the students taking an initiative. I was part of the student movement in the late 60’s and we DID make a difference no matter what anyone says about those days. As far as I know, and I do avoid the news these days, we still have the right to free speech and the duty to ALWAYS question those in positions of authority. That is what democracy looks like.

  19. The violence that has descended upon our children and grandchildren is a complicated problem and no one thing will fix it. But, one large part of the issue is the availability of assault rifles and bump stocks to create machine guns. So far, no one has been able to provide legitimate reasons for why the average citizen needs these items or why a person not old enough to drink or vote can walk in and purchase them. I’m willing to listen, but I’m not hearing anything. All I hear is that I have a right to them. Well, the rest of us have rights to not be subject to their destruction when you get angry about something. If this was a problem facing a corporation, there would be a team set up to attack the problem by breaking it into small enough pieces to resolve. One of those pieces would be the guns themselves. I’m also pretty sure some of the other pieces would be mental illness, tracking of same, national data base available for doing background checks, and just maybe a little legislation in WA. But, to the other theme of this discussion. You have a right to write whatever you want, and I have a right to read or not read, and comment or not comment. So, what’s the real problem? Someone didn’t agree with you and threw a fit. Maybe that needs to be added into the list of things to be addressed – lack of tolerance for another view point.

  20. maxine lesline says:

    That poor Melody…she attacks you for your mild protest against assault weapons…Could she be Russian…?? Protests need to pop up in every media..then maybe.. maybe…. Congress will step up to the awful job of taking more than $1 M a year (benefits…staff..transportation.. lifetime pensions)..and act on behalf of their constituents..instead of the NRA…..My senior senator from Kansas , Pat Roberts.. has been at the government trough for 4 decades.. and is one of the top ten in Congress for donations from the NRA…though behind Mitch McConnell, and Paul Ryan.I am grateful that you have used your public forum to help stop this insanity.

    • debralynnpugh says:

      Maxine, Chris, and EVERYONE, thank you for your feedback. I just read on CNN online that President Trump is proposing to ban bump stocks. That is a START at least and it’s due to those KIDS!! :)

  21. mary says:

    Excellent Response!

  22. Susan Joyce says:

    I think the last thing we all need to do is “rise above” and “let it go”. Nothing happens when you do that. We need to speak out for change, ALL of us. It’s time. Thank you for being brave enough to do that.

    • debralynnpugh says:

      Susan while I was in tears for most of it I think that the “Listening Session” that Trump held today with students, parents, teachers etc. was a good first step.

  23. Joan says:

    I enjoy your posts, however do think this one should have been privately shared.
    The violence that we experience is shocking and hard for us all. It should be noted that these awful occurrences are happening worldwide and not only within our own boarders.
    Additionally, we accept this behavior as entertainment as
    program after program is often aired in our living rooms. I have drawn the line in the sand and determined that this is no longer acceptable in my home. And further, will
    voice this to sponsors, writers, and producers.
    Some will respond with the
    excuse of freedom of speech and my response is that while that can be exercised
    I can also exercise the freedom to no longer view these programs or purchase the products that support them. The voice of the consumer can make a Huge

    • debralynnpugh says:

      Joan it looks as if your approach is working since when I visited the news online today it appears as if many corporations are ending their relationship with the NRA!

  24. Margie Miller says:

    Some of the biggest mass shootings in the U.S. in recent years all have one thing in common: semi-automatic weapons. They were used in the shootings in Aurora, Colorado, Newtown, San Bernardino, Orlando, Las Vegas and now, at a Parkland, Florida high school, among others.

    We thought we’d look at how you can obtain such weapons in the other six industrialized nations, known as the G-7, often used as comparison points for the United States.

    • Canada: You must be 18 to get a license for restricted firearms, including AR-15s. You must take an eight-hour safety course and prove that you are using the weapon for target practice at an approved range, for your job, or for the protection of life.
    • France: You must be 18, according to, a project from the Sydney School of Public Health. Unlike in America, there is no legal right to bear arms in France, according to the Washington Post. The Post says the French must get a hunting or sporting license and pass an extensive background check that includes a psychological evaluation.
    • Germany: There is no legal right to bear arms in Germany. You must be 21 for a weapons possession license. You can only purchase a semi-automatic weapon if you prove you are using it for competitive shooting or hunting. Anyone under 25 also must get a psychological evaluation.
    • Italy: AR-15s and assault-style weapons are considered sporting guns. You must be 18 and prove you are able to handle them before purchase.
    • Japan: AR-15s, assault-style weapons and handguns are prohibited for all ages. Shotguns are permitted, but require a four-month process that includes psychological and criminal evaluations and classes.
    • United Kingdom: Traditional AR-15s are prohibited for all ages, with only a few security exceptions.

    This was from PBS.

  25. CathieJ says:

    You are braver than I am to share your opinion on your blog. I appreciate it and I agree with you.

  26. Donna Fry says:

    Thank you for sharing! I applaud your posting “political” beliefs. We are being bullied by the NRA and I am tired of it! Just sayin!

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