Trying to Catch Up Slice of Life

I thought life would get back to normal a bit. Trying to catch up…but this slice of life is not quite there yet :)

The funeral & wake were all in one day.

The next morning ( late ) my oldest and his GF came by for a last goodbye prior to traveling back to St. Louis. By that time I had the grandkids back from who had been babysitting them for the latter part of the wake,  and there was some cuddling time between Brent and his Uncle Shawn:

The situation is there was no will, no one on his checking or deeds or titles…I will be the executrix …I was joking with my oldest that executor sounds quite normal but Executrix sounds like a super heroine wearing a suit of armor with bat-wings or something :)

It’s okay; on the first day of wading through paperwork Kanga offered to help.

The estate attorney is a friend of my middle son and when you go to visit an attorney and she has two huge friendly Labradoodles in her office you know that you are in good hands:)

Speaking of dogs, the youngest had been living with his dad for the last two months and at the moment he can’t handle being there. So he and Koopa are here with me for awhile.

The cat is not happy and this is what goes on outside. ( Koopa is a young pit bull and they love to jump )

I have two dogs here, and now Koopa for awhile and in the above photo Merle, my middle sons’ dog was visiting too.

Then it is Easter break for the kids and they were all down here for awhile as well on Wednesday and when they took off on their scooters, Kate fell and fractured her arm.  This is not a good month for us!

Meanwhile, Stars and Spools sits awaiting me to finish the binding but every time that I pick it up or the Scrappy Granny quilt, something else happens …I just think that life is going to be messy and family-focused for awhile and if I can even get a few stitches in here and there I will be happy.

The leg wound is not fully healed, either. It was the size of my palm or larger. Skin ripped off stretched back over and stitched. My DIL took the stitches out a day or two after the funeral but the middle is not great ( looks so gross, lol! :)  and so I still want it covered and bandaged as it is so tender. If I do too much I get swelling.  “WHY?” I ask her. “Well you are old” she honestly says.

Meanwhile while it was just awful when Kate fell off of the scooter and was in so much pain by the next day she was happily having me sign her purple cast. An in-between photo that my DIL took :

Well I think no more posts until I am actually able to get back to some sewing :) Have a nice Easter, everyone. We are going to a big get-together that my DILs’  family has at a hall with a playground next to it for the children. More food than one could imagine and it looks as if our weather will be great.

I hope to get back soon to visiting everyone…

an update and thank you

Thank you all so much for the support and prayers, kind comments and thoughtfulness.

When someone goes unexpectedly, as many of you may know…it just all seems so surreal. In this case, especially so because here was a man who in the last few years survived a horrific motorcyle accident, two hip surgeries, and then a battle with cancer!

After all of that, he was due to live to at least 100 and continue on with motorcycle rides, camping with the kids, swimming at the gym with the grandchildren, gardening, and much much more, not die of flu complications shortly after his 66th birthday.

My oldest son and girlfriend were able to make arrangements right away and drive in from St. Louis. My other two and DIL have so many friends that were there with food within hours, and then more food the next day…people just kept pouring in…so we had a tremendous amount of support, and thank you for the prayers that I knew were surrounding us.

We did everything on Saturday. Viewing from 11:00-3:30, service from 3:30 to 4.00.  Cremation versus burial but there still was a procession. A good 75-100 motorcycles traveled from one town to another where the wake was to be held ( paid for by a good friend of the family. )

Unfortunately death is not a new thing to the children. For Javis, Aiselyn and Mya, a baby sister in heaven, a close cousin of their mamas; 2 years ago, their beloved great-grandmother just this past summer, and for Brent and Kate? Their other grandfather passed just two months ago.

My DIL took this photo because it was the childrens’ idea to do this. They so loved their Pappy.

There was a large poster board with all of their drawings and thoughts displayed there, and two of them even wrote things out to say when it came time for the family to speak.

When my youngest was sitting in a chair crying ( in our time before the public came ) little Mya, the twin on the far right, just went and sat by him and rubbed his back.

We are all numb. I’ve not done a thing this past week besides eat and drink at my sons house or restaurants….so much support! Food there and an Army buddy gave him $500.00 just for meals out for all of us when needed.

Here is a phone picture that a relative took at the wake of my boys, wife and girlfriend, and then a cousin on the far left.

Even though my DIL took the stitches out on my leg on the 5th, I still have to be careful….some swelling after being on my feet so much at the funeral home and the wake. After this update I probably won’t blog for awhile….my kids and grands are devastated and I am so behind on just daily life between the leg injury and this shocking death that blogging or even the news ( which from a quick glance today is horrible ) is beyond me for awhile.

Again, thank you for your prayers and kind thoughts and comforting comments :)