The Opioid Crisis in America and my Family

Every once in a blue moon I mention something about the current politics on this blog and there are always a few people that freak out as if no blogs should ever reference anything going on in the real world.

Well there is more going on in the real world aside from President Trump and his escapades. And this post is for the families that have gone through it or are currently going through it or know someone that is. And that is the opioid crisis that is gripping our nation.

For a background to this real-world post I will send you to this link

And then I will tell you that this past time ( via the link ) despite your hopes and prayers along with everyone else that it was NOT successful and he did NOT complete his program and that he DID continue on with the drugs.

He lied to us…told us that he was kicked out of his room for smoking there…and we believed it. He lied about a lot of other things that we either fell for or had suspicions about.

In the end he hit rock bottom…no money, desperate to get out of the cycle and went to rehab for the full four weeks and completed the program.

He’s not coming HERE nor to his brothers’ house since he betrayed us. He had to find a solution…halfway house / another friend to take him in etc. We have all worked together on this with a few friends and came up with a ‘tough love’ solution.

I think that it is going to work out this time and my message to any of you that have friends or family or neighbors going through something like this is that they have to really WANT it and he finally does.

So don’t stop hoping / praying.  Always hope and pray, pray, pray :)

And I will tell you that the first time that I became aware of this crisis was a few years back.  A NURSE !!  A nurse from a good family overdosed and died. I was shocked and dismayed. I did not realize that it could happen to anyone / any family.

I hope that being honest about this will help someone :)

Meanwhile I’ve got Koopa his dog and will probably have to have him for quite awhile :)

I’ll not go in to the hassles of that but just post a favorite picture of him from a few years back :

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27 Responses to The Opioid Crisis in America and my Family

  1. Karen says:

    ah Deb I’m so sorry about all of this – drug addiction is everywhere! One of my brother’s went through this and I can’t tell you the number of times he went into rehab, it is just heartbreaking. My brother finally got clean but due to all of his medical problems (he lived more than half of his life in a wheelchair) died of cancer some years ago now. I hope your son will get strong and clean – tough love – but sometimes you just have to finally say enough. thinking of you

  2. Tough love is hard! I am glad you have Koopa– he is a victim too. Thoughts being sent your way to keep your resolve strong.

  3. val says:

    Like you, when life pulls the rug out from under me, I take long walks and pray….we have had to implement tough love with our youngest daughter and unfortunately, we continue to be estranged. You are so very RIGHT when you wrote: THEY really have to want it. Its the ONLY way they will find their way out. You and your son and his family continue to be in my prayers. :)

  4. Margie says:

    My youngest son went through several years of drugs when he was young but he finally got clean and stayed clean the rest of his life. I am so proud of him!

    We went through several years of hell but got through it with tough love. We attended a tough love support group twenty miles away but the support group got us through it.

    Stay strong! You can get through this too. This addiction is everywhere. I still don’t understand their need to begin using.

  5. Eileen Wise says:

    Hello, Deb! I am sorry for you, your son, Koopa and the family. Tough Love may be the solution. It is a nationwide problem. Stay strong! Sending my prayers and hugs.

  6. barb says:

    Thanks for sharing your real life struggle. You are not alone. He is not alone.
    Sending you a hug.

  7. Nancy says:

    Thank you for your honesty. Our family has been living with this for ten years, and we are right there with you. Wary and hopeful at the same time. Good luck to us all.

  8. Joyce says:

    I’m so sorry to hear this – but it seems that a good ending is now more clearly in sight than it was before. “Pray without ceasing” is the best advice for anyone with any kind of problem. It’s so hard not to get discouraged, though. You made the right choice on the support your son is being offered. He needs to find his own path for housing, but fortunately, Koopa isn’t being made to suffer the circumstances. God bless you, Debra. You truly are the heart of your beautiful family.

  9. Robin says:

    So sorry, hope he will be strong enough to change permanently. It starts out as a pain killer and ends up as addiction. We have friends whose lives have been turned upside down – 2 divorces and 1 death before it was all over. It’s so destructive to everyone. Barb said it, “you are not alone” things do get better finally.

  10. FlowerLady says:

    Love, hugs & prayers for all of you ~ FlowerLady

  11. Chris K in Wisconsin says:

    Thinking of you. You have to know you are not alone. So wonderful that you will keep Koopa. Poor guy. As someone said ~ he, too, is a victim. Tough love is one of the most difficult things to do. I will pray that you all succeed. ♡

  12. Deborah Pentland says:

    I’m a pharmacist. Before I quit my job last year I worked in a hospital in a poor part of St. Louis. Almost daily people would drive up to the front of the hospital and dump overdose victims outside the door. Some, would drive off. Others would wait until we gave the naloxone and they recovered. Then they would drive off. It was a nightmare. No payment, no registration, nothing. It’s a huge problem. I don’t see it resolving in the near future.

  13. This is everywhere. I recall when my ex had to go to medical groups struggling with addiction (his was alcohol) many were surgeons, anesthesiologists or nurses. Nurses and anesthesiologist are near these drugs all the time.

  14. Ann says:

    You are a strong, generous person to share this publicly. We are tempted to keep our troubles private but crises like addiction thrive in darkness and ignorance. Thank you for helping the rest of us. I am praying for you and your family and making a donation to a rehab center.

  15. I am sorry he didn’t make it the first time, but it is encouraging that he seems to now be on a good path. Each family has to come up with their own approach and that will be different based upon the circumstances. Our state has such a problem it is unbelievable, but just a couple of days ago there were around 100 people in one park in Hartford, CT, who had to be treated for overdoses. Now, if that doesn’t point out what a huge problem this is, I don’t know what does. I think part of the problem is the quick response to prescribe pain pills of all kinds so that every discomfort experienced in life is quick and over, but all that does is put the person on a path to long and painful destruction. I don’t know the answer because it is a huge problem, but I will keep you all in my prayers. Best to you, Debra.

  16. Teresa says:

    I am so sorry that this is happening to your family. It such an awful life. Prayers that he will recover this time. But I know that it is up to him. He really want to do it. Hugs to your family.

  17. Colleen says:

    I wish you, the son that is having difficulty, the rest of your family strength to endure this time in your lives.
    It is hard on all of you. It is necessary for you to continue to enjoy your life. Take a lesson from the dog Koopa he misses his “man” but that doesn’t stop him from playing and being a dog.
    Don’t let the problems of this son keep you from loving him and your other family members and doing joyful things your self.
    You have to take care of yourself first then others
    Do what makes you happy everyday be it pictures of your flowers or brushing the dog or a cup of tea or coffee.

  18. Melanie says:

    Oh, Deb…when I saw your blog subject, my heart dropped and I said, “Oh, no.” You know that I know all about the opioid crisis firsthand, also. Although my son was not so “lucky” in fighting his battle. And he was so young…only 21. The opioid crisis in this country is an epidemic. There are now about 274 people per DAY in the US that die from overdosing. There are no easy answers.

    You and your son will both be in my prayers. I am so sorry you are dealing with this horrific nightmare as a mom. xoxo

    • debralynnpugh says:

      Melanie and every one / thanks for the support and I think that we can help each other / or friends etc :) He’s staying with a very TOUGH LOVE friend and can visit here to see / walk dog etc and we are sticking with that for 30 days then we have another 30 day plan with another friend of the family worked out between his two older brothers and them :) I will just keep praying :)

  19. Kim says:

    Thinking of you and your son, Deb…big hugs and prayers…

    • Pat Taylor says:

      Sending so many positive thoughts that your son’s feet will stay firmly on this path. Give Koopa extra hugs and continue to take care of yourself. Praying your son will see your own strength and committment to this Tough Love and draw from that.

  20. Jane says:

    Sending love and prayers to all, including your son. I hope you get support from your family, friends, and everyone who follows your blog. We never know if someone who gets sober will snap somewhere down the road. Sadly, its usually final.

    Sending a cyber hug,


  21. Bernie says:

    Wishing you some peace as your son works through his issues. I cannot even imagine your worry and stress. Take care of yourself. I think you are doing the right thing for him and for you.

  22. Oh Deb, I’m so sorry….addiction is a terrible thing to deal with, when it’s someone you love and you want to help them but tough love is really the only way you can. I left my marriage because my husband refused to help himself. It took me 16 years to wake up and realize that I could only help ME. So I did. Of course his family hates me for leaving, but that’s the price I had to pay for my sanity and my peace. Best of luck with your son, hopefully he’s on the right path now.

  23. Barb says:

    My son is also an addict and is estranged from us. The only way I have survived is by attending Al Anon meetings. They are for friends and family of the addict-you learn that it is possible to be happy again. Remember you didn’t cause it, you can’t control it,and you can’t cure it.

  24. Susan says:

    Mine, too. He lives on the street. I can’t believe a word he says. He isn’t allowed to stay here, but sometimes I feed him or let him take a shower. It’s difficult to be a mother of an addict. I still pray for him and love him, and I always will. I have no expectations that he will ever change. He’s hit what I would have called rock bottom too many times and not changed. I hope the best for your family. It wasn’t your choice, it was his.

  25. Tough love has to be hard but without it your enabling A vet hard place to be my prayers are with you and your family

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