an update and thank you

Thank you all so much for the support and prayers, kind comments and thoughtfulness.

When someone goes unexpectedly, as many of you may know…it just all seems so surreal. In this case, especially so because here was a man who in the last few years survived a horrific motorcyle accident, two hip surgeries, and then a battle with cancer!

After all of that, he was due to live to at least 100 and continue on with motorcycle rides, camping with the kids, swimming at the gym with the grandchildren, gardening, and much much more, not die of flu complications shortly after his 66th birthday.

My oldest son and girlfriend were able to make arrangements right away and drive in from St. Louis. My other two and DIL have so many friends that were there with food within hours, and then more food the next day…people just kept pouring in…so we had a tremendous amount of support, and thank you for the prayers that I knew were surrounding us.

We did everything on Saturday. Viewing from 11:00-3:30, service from 3:30 to 4.00.  Cremation versus burial but there still was a procession. A good 75-100 motorcycles traveled from one town to another where the wake was to be held ( paid for by a good friend of the family. )

Unfortunately death is not a new thing to the children. For Javis, Aiselyn and Mya, a baby sister in heaven, a close cousin of their mamas; 2 years ago, their beloved great-grandmother just this past summer, and for Brent and Kate? Their other grandfather passed just two months ago.

My DIL took this photo because it was the childrens’ idea to do this. They so loved their Pappy.

There was a large poster board with all of their drawings and thoughts displayed there, and two of them even wrote things out to say when it came time for the family to speak.

When my youngest was sitting in a chair crying ( in our time before the public came ) little Mya, the twin on the far right, just went and sat by him and rubbed his back.

We are all numb. I’ve not done a thing this past week besides eat and drink at my sons house or restaurants….so much support! Food there and an Army buddy gave him $500.00 just for meals out for all of us when needed.

Here is a phone picture that a relative took at the wake of my boys, wife and girlfriend, and then a cousin on the far left.

Even though my DIL took the stitches out on my leg on the 5th, I still have to be careful….some swelling after being on my feet so much at the funeral home and the wake. After this update I probably won’t blog for awhile….my kids and grands are devastated and I am so behind on just daily life between the leg injury and this shocking death that blogging or even the news ( which from a quick glance today is horrible ) is beyond me for awhile.

Again, thank you for your prayers and kind thoughts and comforting comments :)

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31 Responses to an update and thank you

  1. Karen Beigh says:

    Sorry that your family had to go through all of this and so unexpectedly.

  2. Águeda says:

    Mi más sentido pésame. Yo les deseo a usted y a su familia una pronta recuperación. Usted tiene tantos niños maravillosos: Ellos son la fuerza y la bendición.
    Ustedes están en mi oración. Un abrazo.

  3. Eileen says:

    Hello Deb, thanks for the update. I will continue to keep you and your family in my prayers. I know your children and grandchildren will miss their father and their Poppy. I know you all have happy memories. I do hope you feel better and take care of your leg.

  4. Take care of yourself, Deb, we will be here when you are back to blogging again.

  5. Karen says:

    sorry you are all going through this, it takes awhile to get back to “normal”

  6. Joyce says:

    There are no words. Just a heart full of sympathy – and of gratitude that so many came out in support – and that Pappy can look down on those beautiful children and know he will never be forgotten. I am just so sorry.

  7. Nita says:

    (((Hug))) (((hug))) (((hug)))

  8. Kim says:

    Deb, I will continue to pray for all of you. Please take care of yourself.

  9. Margie Miller says:

    I am so sorry all this has happened. I continue to hold you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Take care of yourself!

  10. Chris K in Wisconsin says:

    Again, this is time to care for yourself. Be sure you take that as a serious job to be done. When you try to do too much, your body will actually let you know. Your job is to listen and slow down. As much as we don’t want to believe it, as we get older, it does take longer to bounce back. Thoughts and prayers from Wisconsin. Take care!!

  11. FlowerLady says:

    Continued love, hugs and prayers for you and your family.


  12. Debi says:

    Sorry for your loss — hugs and prayers for you and your family.

  13. BillieBee says:

    Gentle hugs and prayers.

  14. I know you take comfort in all the support you and your family have received. Prayers and wishes for your leg to fully heal so you can enjoy spring. :-)

  15. Debby Ray says:

    Praying that the Lord will give you all of the strength you need to get through this and also a peace that passes all understanding. Hugs!

  16. Melanie says:

    I am so sorry, Deb…continuing to keep you and your family in my prayers. And I also must apologize for my comment on your last post. I guess I was reading too quickly and when I saw “succumbed to a heart attack”, I didn’t realize he had passed away. My heart goes out to you, your children, and grandchildren.

  17. What a wonderful idea that someone gave you money just to get food! A gift like that is very much needed at a time like this. I’m so sorry for your loss.

  18. Catherine says:

    Take care and be gentle with yourself. You will heal, but it will take time. Be assured of continued prayers.

  19. Pat says:

    I’m so sorry to hear of your loss, Deb! My deepest sympathies to you and your family. May good and happy memories be your consolation in this time of sorrow. (((hugs)))

  20. Sweet Marie says:

    I’m so sorry to hear this news, so sorry for your loss. Sending you hugs & love.

  21. Kathleen Mary says:

    May God give you and all you love strength.

  22. Continued prayers for you and your family Deb. xo

  23. Continued prayers for you and your family Deb. I’m glad you all have had so much support. xo

  24. Val Reynolds says:

    I continue to think of you and keep your family in my prayers. Quilty hugs!!! V

  25. So sorry, Deb, that your family has had so many losses in such a short time. Wishing you quick healing with the leg…the heart will take a lot longer. xo

  26. Dewena says:

    Deb, thank you for sharing these pictures and sweet and harrowing moments with us. The comfort of family being together is so obvious, even in the saddest of times. I hope you all take time to mourn and heal and be together and be alone when needed for rest. Thinking about you.

  27. Pat in WNY says:

    So very sorry to hear about your loss Deb. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.

  28. gail says:

    Hugs and healing thoughts.

  29. Nana Diana says:

    I don’t know how I missed seeing/commenting here but wanted you to know how my heart is aching for you. Life is so unsure and we just never know from day to day what we are going to have to deal with. I will keep you in my prayers and saying “I’m sorry” is just one of those inadequate phrases that doesn’t even touch how I really feel. God bless you, my friend.

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